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Social Distancing and Mourning
Express Condolences During COVID-19
Grief & Mourning during COVID-19
A New Grief: Staying Connected to Help
Understanding Survivors Guilt
COVID-19 Loss, Grief & Gatherings During the Holiday Season
Expressing Condolences
How to Express Condolences
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Expressions of Deepest Sympathy
Communicating After a Loss
Verbal Condolences
Words to Express Condolences
What To Say
Words of Comfort
Written Condolences
Sympathy Cards
Writing a Condolence Message
Condolences By Text
Condolence Letters
Sample Condolence Messages
What to Bring or Send
Gifts of Condolence
Sympathy Baskets & Food
Sympathy Flowers
Plant a Tree in the Holy Land
Thyme of Remembrance
Visiting in Person
Making a Donation
Planning & Coordinating
Post COVID-19 Planning a Funeral: “New Normal”
Viewneral® Collaborative and Interactive Virtual Funerals
Virtual Funerals: How to Attend as a Guest
Guidance for Speakers at a Virtual Funeral Service
Virtual Memorial Gatherings: How to Attend
Funeral Preparations
Planning Your Own Funeral Service
Planning a Wake
Planning a Funeral
Pre-planning a Funeral
Preparing for a Memorial Service
Choosing a Funeral Home
Burial Arrangements
Making Arrangements
Preparing for the Burial of a Loved One
Obituaries & Eulogies
How to Write an Obituary
Religious Preparations
Preparing a Protestant Christian Funeral
Preparing a Shiva
Preparing for a Roman Catholic Funeral
What 'To-Do' When Someone Dies
What “To-Do” Immediately After Someone Dies
Important Actions to Take Prior to the Funeral
The Necessary End-of-Life Legal & Financial Actions
Funeral Rule: Guidelines Governing Funeral Pricing
How to Budget for a Funeral and Understanding the Costs
Checklists
Pre-Planning for a Funeral
Planning Your Own Funeral Service
Planning a Funeral
Preparing the Burial of a Loved One
Preparing for a Roman Catholic Funeral
Preparing a Protestant Christian Funeral
Preparing for A Memorial Service
Planning for a Wake
Preparing for a Shiva
Important Legal & Financial Documents
Grief & Coping
Post-Covid19 Funerals, Gatherings & PTSD
Understanding Grief
The Stages of Grief
Additional Stages of Grief
Fifth Stage of Grief: Acceptance
Fourth Stage of Grief: Depression
Third Stage of Grief: Bargaining
Second Stage of Grief: Anger
First Stage of Grief: Denial
What Are the Stages of Grief?
Understanding Coping
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Coping with Special Circumstances
Grieving Loss at the Holidays
Grieving Suicide
Grieving Death from Natural Causes
Grieving Death Following a Long-term Illness
Grieving a Miscarriage
Grieving Death by a Sudden Loss
The Loss of a Loved One and Stress
Understanding Survivors Guilt
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Understanding Loss
Understanding Bereavement
After Loss: The Days that Follow
Types of Loss
Loss Based on Circumstances
Loss at Work
Loss in the Neighborhood
Loss by Disaster
Loss Based on Relationship
Loss of a Pet
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Loss of an Ex-Spouse
Loss of a Friend
Loss of a Child
Loss of a Spouse
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Understanding Buddhism
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Social Distancing and Mourning
Express Condolences During COVID-19
Grief & Mourning during COVID-19
A New Grief: Staying Connected to Help
Understanding Survivors Guilt
Loss, Grief and Gatherings During the Holiday Season
Expressing Condolences
How to Express Condolences
How to Express Condolences
Listening
Expressions of Deepest Sympathy
Communicating After a Loss
Sympathy Messages
Offering Condolences on Social Media
Verbal Condolences
Words to Express Condolences
What To Say
Words of Comfort
Written Condolences
Sympathy Cards
Writing a Condolence Message
Condolences By Text
Condolence Letters
Sample Condolence Messages
What to Bring or Send
Gifts of Condolence
Sympathy Baskets & Food
Sympathy Flowers vs. Sympathy Plants
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Plant a Tree to Honor and Commemorate
Thyme of Remembrance
Visiting in Person
Why Plants Make Beautiful Sympathy Gifts
Making a Donation
Planning & Coordinating
Viewneral™ Collaborative and Interactive Virtual Funerals
Virtual Funerals: How to Attend as a Guest
Guidance for Speakers at a Virtual Funeral Service
Virtual Memorial Gatherings: How to Attend
Funeral Preparations
Post COVID-19 Planning a Funeral: “New Normal”
Post COVID-19 Guide on Food Safety at Wakes and Memorial Gatherings
Planning Your Own Funeral Service
Planning a Wake
Planning a Funeral
Pre-planning a Funeral
Preparing for a Memorial Service
Choosing a Funeral Home
Burial Arrangements
Making Burial Arrangements
Preparing for the Burial of a Loved One
Obituaries & Eulogies
How to Write an Obituary
How to Write a Eulogy
Tips for Giving a Eulogy
Religious Preparations
Preparing a Protestant Christian Funeral
Preparing a Shiva
Preparing for a Roman Catholic Funeral
What 'To-Do' When Someone Dies
What “To-Do” Immediately After Someone Dies
Important Actions to Take Prior to the Funeral
The Necessary End-of-Life Legal & Financial Actions
Funeral Rule: Guidelines Governing Funeral Pricing
How to Budget for a Funeral and Understanding the Costs
Checklists
Pre-Planning for a Funeral
Planning Your Own Funeral Service
Planning a Funeral
Preparing the Burial of a Loved One
Preparing for a Roman Catholic Funeral
Preparing a Protestant Christian Funeral
Preparing for A Memorial Service
Planning for a Wake
Preparing for a Shiva
Important Legal & Financial Documents
Grief & Coping
Post-Covid19 Funerals, Gatherings & PTSD
Understanding Grief
The Stages of Grief
What Are the Stages of Grief?
First Stage of Grief: Denial
Second Stage of Grief: Anger
Third Stage of Grief: Bargaining
Fourth Stage of Grief: Depression
Fifth Stage of Grief: Acceptance
Additional Stages of Grief
A New Grief: Staying Connected to Help During COVID-19 Coronavirus
Understanding Coping
How to Cope
Coping with Special Circumstances
Grieving Loss at the Holidays
Grieving Suicide
Grieving Death from Natural Causes
Grieving Death Following a Long-term Illness
Grieving a Miscarriage
Grieving Death by a Sudden Loss
The Loss of a Loved One and Stress
Understanding Survivors Guilt
Choosing a Grief Center
Loss & Bereavement
Understanding Loss
Understanding Bereavement
After Loss: The Days that Follow
Types of Loss
Loss Based on Circumstances
Loss at Work
Loss in the Neighborhood
Loss by Disaster
Loss Based on Relationship
Loss of a Pet
Loss of a Parent
Loss of a Grandparent
Loss of a Sibling
Loss of an Estranged Parent
Loss of an Ex-Spouse
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Early Preparations
What is the choice of cemetery?
What is the choice of casket?
Will flowers be encouraged?
Will donations to a charity be encouraged?
Who should be chosen to speak?
What Scriptures and/or songs should be used?
Has contact been made with Hevra Kadisha?
Before and Immediately Following the Death
If individual passes away at work, contact 911 and report death.
If individual was under medical care, contact primary care physician.
Follow instructions if individual was an organ donor.
To plan the funeral, you will need individual’s Social Security number, date and place of birth, family member names.
Telling the News to Others
Inform, in person if possible, closest family members
Make list of intermediate family and friends to contact
Delegate family members to make phone calls. Avoid texts and emails.
Make list of work place, organizations, charities and synagogues that need to be contacted. Pass list on to delegated family members for phone calls.
Planning the Funeral
Decide who will conduct the service. Communicate with Herva Kadish to coordinate efforts.
Consult with officiant regarding the eulogy and participation of family.
Estimate the number of attendees.
Consult with funeral home regarding service locations for both eulogy and burial. Decide if chapel and/or gravesite service will be best.
Burial
If the individual had a pre-arranged burial and funeral plan, follow the instructions.
Appoint pall-bearers.
If the individual owned a tallit (prayer shawl), decide if it should be buried or given to the family.
Consider clothing, cosmetics, hair style for preparing the body for burial.
Sudat Hav’Ra’ah
If family is observing this custom, make arrangements for light meal for mourners who will not participate.
Make small map or directions to the family home.
Place pitcher of water, basin and towel outside the front door of home.
Preparing for Shiva
Decide where, when and at what times you will sit shiva. Post times on door.
Note times that will be reserved for family and times that will be open to visitors.
Coordinate meals for the family through shiva.
Set up and prepare the shiva house. For a detailed checklist, consult the Shiva Preparation Checklist available at shiva.com. Click here to view a detailed Shiva Preparation Checklist.
To create a custom Shiva Planning Checklist on eCondolence click here.
Other Items
If individual was a veteran, contact local post. Have individual’s discharge papers.
Place an obituary in the local or Jewish newspapers.
Designate a charitable organization(s) for donations in honor of the loved one.
Arrange for transportation and housing of family members, if necessary
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