For many, an important part of the grieving process is visiting the cemetery and grave site of the loved one. The opportunity to visit the final resting place of the deceased demonstrates in a concrete way that the loved one has not been forgotten.
The Latter Day Saint Church does not have official customs or traditions about how often friends or family should visit the cemetery. The grave may be visited by people wishing to show honor and respect for the deceased.
In some areas where there is a large population of Latter Day Saints, cemeteries will be set aside just for Mormon believers. Often these cemeteries are adjacent or close to a Mormon church. In most communities, Mormons who have passed away will be buried in community or family cemeteries.
Remembering and Respecting
The cemetery is a place for families and friends to mourn and reflect on the lives of the deceased. Visiting the grave site is done with respect and honor, conveying a somber, peaceful spirit. It is appropriate to bring flowers or wreaths to adorn the grave site. Trash or discarded items should be cleaned up and taken away after the visit. The one who visits the cemetery is preserving the memory of the deceased for all who will visit at later times.
Though there are not prescribed times to visit the cemetery in the Latter Day Saint churches, many find comfort on visiting on special occasions or holidays. It is appropriate for family and friends to visit on the birthday of the deceased or on a wedding anniversary. Many will want to visit on religious holidays, such as Christmas and Easter, or on political holidays like Memorial Day. Some families pick a special day of the year to have everyone gather together and visit several grave sites on the same day.